Yelled at Kids And Feeling Bad? Hereβs How You can Reconnect
Disclaimer: This is my personal blog and all the views and thoughts expressed here are my own.
I would be wrong if I said that I donβt yell at the kids. Of course I do, and then I feel terrible!
But once the storm has passed, I always feel bad. The kids do too. Try these to feel better, and overall you will have a better parent-child relationship!
Ways To Reconnect After Yelling at Your Kids
1. Talk To Your Child
Yelling at your kids can be painful. If you find yourself yelling, stop, calm down, and explain to your kids why you are upset. Talk to them about how you have feelings too and how I was difficult for you to control but you really are trying to handle your emotions. Read 10 Tips To Keep Mommy Sane.
2. Comfort and Love Them
I know they get startled and upset when I am yelling at the kids. They have trouble comprehending how as a mom, I can be so angry. At this time, I make it a point to re-assure them that irrespective of the fact that I am upset, I do still love them. But yes, I have my big emotions moments.
3. Β Spend Time Together
Post yelling at the kids, the clingy mom in me in overdrive. I want to hold them and cuddle. This works wonders for both of us. We work together in the kitchen, go take a walk or sometimes even switch on a cute Disney movie, cuddle in and watch it together. Parents and kids need five positive interactions to counteract each negative interaction, so do what you can to reset your day! Doing one of these great Parent Child Bonding Activities always helps at times such as these.
4. Donβt Be Mad At Yourself
Donβt beat yourself up too much or feel too guilty for having yelled at kids. It happens, we all have our bad days and nobody is perfect. Be sure to forgive yourself and simply work harder to keep your calm so that you donβt have to yell next time.
I always feel bad whenever I yell at the kids at home and I really find it hard how to make up.
Sometimes, I would approach them and give them snacks or any peace offering just so they would know that I still cared.
Thanks for this helpful post!
Oh yes the snacks. It’s also often my way of making all of us feel better!
Lovely post Manveen, I am going to save this link as it will be helpful for me in future for sure. It’s a must read and follow for every parent. Thanks for writing this π
Thanks for leaving these words behind. π
Thanks for sharing. Your tips would apply on anyone we have been rude with.
Thanks for sharing. Your tips would apply on anyone we have been rude with. Pretty universal tips I must say!!!
I agree. These would work in all situations of unrest. Thanks for sharing that.
A crisp but beautiful post on what’s needed at the moment! Thank you for this!
Thanks Anjana.
Yelling makes me feel guilty all the time I try and avoid but them it happens talking it out and not feeling bad and guilty is best for both
Ask me about the guilt that follows every time i scold my twins!! These are some great tips. Hugging and comforting helps a lot- in making both the child and the mother feel better.
Oh the guilt.. the most difficult to combat.
Thank you for this post. The mom guilt engulfs me as soon as I yell. And then both the babY and I end up crying π
This is the basic characteristic of each mum to feel bad after yelling at kids. But we too have our patience levels. The reconnecting techniques that you have listed work just fine. Tried and tested. π
Comforting the child is sometimes easier than dealing with our own guilt
I think every parent needs to read this. We all scream at our kids and then feel guilty later. Your last point especially touched my heart. I blame my self a lot when I get angry at Karma sometimes and yell at her. Even after comforting her, the guilt stays on sometimes.
Thanks for aharing these beautiful tips. I surely need some power when I actually lose it all!!
Im guilty of this so many times. I feel like a terrible.mother then. Hugs and lots of kisses and explaining why I did that helps. And of course the word sorry
Oh Yes! A lot of times. I think all moms go through this. Nice tips.
Mom guilt is the worse. I too yell at my kid sometimes and then feel sorry for hours. Thank you for sharing this.
I think all mothers face this mommy guilt after yelling on the kids. But, Moms are humans so at first place I think a mom should stop feeling guilty herself. The points you share dto be with kids and enjoy life is really nice.
Yes important is not to be mad at oneself…which we often do…once guilty..
Love your parenting tips π
Kush I can so relate to this of late I have been doing this so much
Very true. When we loose our temper we don’t it it intentionally but we are also human being. Feeling bad afterwards is very natural. Best way is to accept it and try not to repeat it again (when not required and things can be sorted out calmly). Not being hard on ourself is very important because as a parent we never want anything bad for them.
I feel really guilty after yelling at my kid. I try to reconnect immediately, so that he doesn’t feel alone.
Thanks for sharing these tips!!!!
Yes, yelling brings in guilt . You have given some great tips to deal with it. Reconnecting with them and letting them know how bad it feels to you certainly helps.
Thanks a ton for this Manveen. Came at the right time. Few personal set backs made me take it out on M yesterday night and since then I have been upset. As I have told you before, Mother O Pedia has always given me answers when I have stumbled. Was unable to forgive myself for it but once she is back from school today, I am going to do all that you have suggested.