How ‘ Working Mom Guilt’ Ruins Lives!
At this very moment, while I type this blog, my husband has taken his parents and the kids on a vacation to a beach. I couldn’t join them. Deadlines beckoned.
Am I missing them? That’s a question I won’t even answer!
Do I feel guilty? NO.
It was really tough to do it. I spent a lot of time being torn. It became a constant companion until one day I realized that I didn’t have children in order to spend my life feeling forever inadequate. I wanted children to enrich my life, not enslave my conscience.
But I have done it because as far as possible, one of the parents is always with the kids.
An antidote to this ‘Working Mom Guilt’ has been my husband.
In this world of feminism, not matter how much we educated our girls, we must remember that the other half is still men.
Equally feminist men must exist, and they must better the world for women. He’s done it for me.
My family has been the scaffolding of my career.
While I’ve had to work, the dad has taken them to birthday parties.
While I may need to complete an article, dad’s been there to cook.
While I’ve been held at a meeting, dad’s been there to pick them up at the stop.
Why You Should Give Up The Working Mom Guilt?
Because you are lucky
I can work because I have a wonderful husband who supports me, understanding children and a very efficient nanny. Can I say I don’t experience mom guilt because I’m lucky. Hell yes, I am!
Because your kids are watching
Our kids learn a lot about women, gender, and the relationship between the sexes within their own families. Your method for dividing up household duties, the way you talk to your partner, and the way you talk about yourself inform your son’s personal philosophies. If you are always going to feel guilty about your role as a working parent, the gender duties are going to be polarized.
Because you love what you are doing
I do what I love. It’s interesting. It’s challenging. It’s creative. It’s something that gives me an outlet. I love getting ready and going to work. Sipping that coffee from Starbucks on my way out. Chatting up with colleagues about Twinkle Khanna holidaying in Paris without her family!! It’s fine to enjoy these simple pleasures that working life gives you.
Because you will always make time for the family
When the mom guilt gets too enlarged, I take the day off from work, wait for the kids to get back from school and put all the screens away! We shelve our schedules, go to the park, take a swim at the club and have loads of fun. If you can’t catch a full day, whatever time you do get, put your phone, laptop and the zillion other seemingly important things aside and just try to have some fun!