I’ve been dealing with my son waking up at night with tremors and panic attacks. At a recent wedding, my husband had to make an unforeseen exit with him because he couldn’t digest the noise.
As adults, anxiety is hard to deal with in adults but when kids are in question, it’s tougher.
Between my husband and myself, we’ve chewed and digested every possible source of information to understand what the source of anxiety could be.With a great effort amount of observation, patience and effort on our part, we’ve managed to address most of his issues.
If you’re a parent and not sure where to start, here are a few tips and tricks to help you learn what to do if your child has an anxiety issue.
What Are The Kinds OF Anxiety Issues Do Kids Have?
Kids face several kinds of anxiety issues. While I’m not discussing the medical disorders here, some of the commonly occurring are :
Tip 1 To Handling Anxiety In A Child: BE CALM
As a parent, be in control of your emotions. It’s one of the most important things to do. What an onlooker may think not ever cross your mind. Anxiety, at its core, is fear. If your child is experiencing an anxious episode, your own fear will only make the baby crawl into a deeper hole. Be calm.
Tip 2 To Handling Anxiety In A Child: DON’T DISMISS THE FEAR
Please don’t belittle your child’s fear. If your child expresses fear, saying something like “You’ve got nothing to be afraid of” can make the child bottle up the next time. Try acknowledging the fear and seeing how you can help with a response similar to “I see that something is bothering you. Would you like to talk about it?” That opens up those important lines of communication and can help you help your child manage his fears.
Tip 3 For Handing Anxiety In A Child: TEACH YOUR CHILD TO FACE THE ISSUES
Growing up, you were probably told that it’s important to face your fears. This tip may not apply in medical cases but in most situational triggers, it’s a good way to teach your child to handle and address anxiety. Additionally, it’s a good way to teach your child that anxiety can only last for a short time because the body doesn’t like to be anxious.
Tip 4 For Handing Anxiety In A Child: ACCEPT HIS IMPERFECTION
As parents it’s natural to strive for perfection in your child. But this should not lead to focusing on your child’s failures. Instead of berating children because he or she is not perfect, focus on the positive things. Take the approach “the glass is half full.” This heightens the anxiety levels thus pushing the child deeper. Keep that glass half-full, and you might benefit as well.
Tip 5 For Handing Anxiety In A Child: BE A ROLE MODEL
Children definitely embody the old phrase “monkey see, monkey do.” Be a positive role model for your child. This includes self-care and positive thinking. Don’t tell him to ‘ take a few breaths.’ Instead, just sit down with them and say, “Let’s take a few deep breaths together,” and walk them through the exercise.
Tip 6 For Handing Anxiety In A Child: STRESS UPON THE SLEEP
Sleep can be a trigger for such children. Follow a bedtime routine and try to be stable around it. A well rested night makes anxious children more comfortable and more likely to respond positively to a situation. Affirmative talk as part of the bed time routine helps.
Tip 7 For Handing Anxiety In A Child: REWARD AND BE REWARDED
Not only does rewarding brave behavior or overcoming a fear help to reinforce the good that the child is doing for him or herself, but it’s also a great way to create a very strong bond between child and parent. It teaches your child that no matter what happens, you’re the person to turn to.
Remember, just being there — being a shoulder to cry on or your child’s rock to hide behind — is the most important and amazing thing you can do for a little one with anxiety. Everything else is secondary.