My toddler is like a blender without a lid. And my daughter, well she’s almost there. Taking a two minute loo break is most of the times, a lot to ask out of them!! By the time I’m out, my kids have usually, and unsurprisingly, managed to custom design the home! With car-pooling trips, long days of work ending with longer lists of ‘yet-to-do’ things, dinners, baths, story times and more work to finish, I have my plate full round the clock.
All in all, I love being a mom and, like all mothers out there I too have dedicated myself to being there for my family. But I also have a selfish side to me which surfaces and smacks me in the face when it is ignored. This is what I call ‘Me’.
How well I treat ‘me’ reflects on how I take care for my kids, my home. This most certainly does not mean that I use ‘me’ time as an excuse to escape my responsibilities as a mother. What it merely means is that I need to extricate myself from being a mom 24/7 and pro-actively make time for myself. It could be something as simple as doing nothing by myself, going for a swim by myself or not sharing the television when I am watching Castle!! What this also sums up to is that I seek solitude from my kids, my work, my home.
My family understands this need of mine to romance myself. Mother’s day this year has come as an ode not only to me as a mother, but also as a refreshing way of acknowledging that I exist as a woman, of accepting that I may not want to think about the kids for once (impossible though), of admitting that my energy reserves aren’t endless! My husband (well I don’t call him a sweetheart for nothing ) has volunteered to take time off from work to baby sit the kiddos and has packed me off with my sister (a mother of 2 year old twins aching for her ‘me’ time) to Mumbai for a chilled out weekend break!!
Now that’s what I call ‘ Happy Mother’s Day!’
Food for Mommy’s Thought: A happy ‘me’ makes a happier mommy!